How to Get Unstuck #6
Let’s Take A Pause In This Series To Ask:
Are You Serious Stuck? In-Real-Trouble-Here Stuck?
Do you know when you are in hot water and the water may be getting close to boiling?
Would you say that nothing seems to be going right these days? Is it accurate to say that where you sit right now you don’t know what to do next?
Stuck may require a more professional level of help. If you cannot focus well enough to make a plan and the behaviors that you find yourself doing are not helping — and certainly if they are making things worse, you need to consider asking for help.
Take a deep breath and pick someone to help you get help.
That person might be:
- your medical doctor
- a close friend
- your spouse or significant other (tell this person that you are seriously stuck and need immediate help, don’t under sell it!)
- a 24-hour hotline
- do an internet search for therapist in your town name (find a website you like, make the call)
- or check out another search site: www.psychologytoday.com
- a minister, rabbi, person in your spiritual community
This may seem extreme to you, but really — this is the most immediate way to get moving toward feeling less desperate. The bad feeling in your head and in your body — where you have been living, where the water is hot — can change today. But for that to happen, you have to tell someone and let them know that this is real and you are sure you are in trouble and you need help.
Right now you do not need to answer the question HOW or WHY this has happened to you. It is not your fault that you are stuck. Getting help will move you closer to being able to think better, so you can make better decisions about getting unstuck.
But, let me ask you, are you seriously thinking about a plan to harm yourself? If so, forget the list and call 911 or go to the Emergency Room now.
Make today the day you ask for help.
